It's been one year since the Sikh Community in the Greater Vancouver Area (and in reality, North America at large) lost its most powerful preacher and Sikh Youth role model.
It's been one year since the biggest funeral in British Columbia history.
Parminder Singh of Surrey, B.C. passed away one year ago this week. Along with him, two others passed away as well;
Rena Kaur and
Charnjit Singh. (From everything I've heard, Rena Kaur and Charnjit Singh led amazing lives as well, but I don't know enough about them to really say much. Charnjit Singh was one of the most amazing Gatka (Sikh martial arts) players and teachers in the entire world and Rena Kaur was one of the most promising and well-rounded Sikh girls that I had ever encountered, and I especially came to know that just a couple of days before her death.)
I don't know what to say really, especially since much has been said already, but I'd like to share a few thoughts nonetheless.
I really admired Parminder Singh. Within one year, (May 2003 to May 2004) he somehow established himself (I still don't know how he did it) as the most sought after Sikh Youth speaker in North America.
Not only that, but his appeal extended so much further. A few weeks before his death, his name was added to the list of approved religious preachers that were allowed to visit my father with little to no restrictions. And this was a guy, who just a year earlier, was largely unknown!
The first time I heard him speak was in October 2003, at an inter-faith
religions conference. He spoke last, and by all accounts, he blew everyone away. Normally, I never gave many speakers the chance to impress me. I'm usually too skeptical; maybe even too egotistical to believe that they'd be able to awe me.
When he spoke, I thankfully let my guard down, and like everyone else, I was blown away.
I asked him to speak just a couple months later at our annual
Sikh Students Association conference at UBC, and once again, he did not disappoint. So certain was I in his abilities, that I convinced the other conference organizers to make sure he was given more time than the rest of the speakers.
I have to confess something though... something that many are probably aware of. While recognizing that Parminder Singh was an amazing preacher, a couple of times, I regrettably expressed concerns with a few of the consequences of his increasing popularity and stature. In hindsight, it is so easy to recognize how petty these considerations were, and I just wish that I was more mature not to feel the way I did.
In March of 2004, we (the UBC SSA) once again invited him to speak at a small Keertan Divaan that we were holding before the exam period. Turnout was a complete disaster. We somehow got Parminder Singh to agree to speak that very day (if we got him to agree to speak before that, turnout would have been a fair bit higher), and even though there was such a small audience, I'd never heard him give such an amazing lecture. For weeks after that, I was on a high. It might not all have been because of his speech, but it was certainly a factor.
I remember re-thinking my previous concerns at that time, and wishing that he would be able to execute all the plans that he had and that he would be able to spread his message far and wide, because I really began to develop a strong faith in him and the potential that he had... and this was only a month before he passed away.
I remember seeing him at the Nagar Keertans in
April 2004 (Davinder Singh, Me and Parminder Singh), and he never acted how one would expect. He spent so much of his time, separated from the dozens of Sikh Youth who idolized him, and instead, he spent so much time going through the crowds in an effort to hand out brochures for the
Guru Nanak Academy. His life was absolutely and completely dedicated to helping others. No other considerations really seemed to effect him much. Not work, not money and certainly nothing other than Sikhi Parchaar during his spare time.
He didn't become "big" due to his own ambition, he became "big" due to his incredible abilities, his persuasive powers and his strong, principled character, and that's the way it should be done more often.
I remember the day the car accident took place. Horrible, horrible day. I was at work when my brother told me that a huge accident had just taken place and that a number of the people from "the academy" were seriously injured and that Charnjit Singh had passed away. After about 30 minutes of shock and gathering more information, I quickly called as many people as I could. I couldn't sit, I felt sick.
After the information started to become clearer (thread on a Sikh Youth message board that night), it became obvious (though not at that time) that Parminder Singh and Rena Kaur were on their way out of this world. I didn't sleep that night. I stayed awake in my apartment, sitting on Yahoo! Messenger, doing Paath (Sikh prayers) with a bunch of other Sikh youths throughout the night. None of us could sleep. Every one of us began to realize the scope and depth of the tragedy that was just taking place. At the time, every one of us innocently held out some hope that maybe, just maybe, Rena Kaur and Parminder Singh could show SOME brain activity, and that someone would simply tell us that information at any time, but that never happened. I couldn't sleep at all. That morning at around 3am I drove all the way to Surrey in the most horrible weather I had ever driven in, in order to attend the beginning of the Akhand Paath. I went, I listened, I drove back, heard the horrible news from those who were still awake, (at 7am in the morning) and then I finally fell asleep, knowing that while this would invigorate and bring together many people in the short term, what had just happened would be an immense tragedy in the long term, both for the families of the victims, but also for the community at large.
And while it's not like the community has fallen apart, it no doubt has been an extraordinary tragedy....

(I really like this picture.)